How do you place an alcoholic Dad with dementia in a care home if they want him to stop drinking and he won't?

Well, I'll give an update to the question I asked. Dad had a car accident 8/16 and lost his vehicle and license. (I've told him he can't get it back but in reality he could have appealed). Since he lives 3 miles outside of town he is dependent on others to get his beer. He is not in AL. He is at home with a caregiver that lives on his property (she was his tenant now caregiver). She is trying to control his alcohol consumption as best she can. We have been giving dad 2 beers a day (neurologist said NONE but he is an addict) . He goes to the neighbors and gets more if he can. So some days he will have 3-5. He gets drunk very easily according to his caregiver. I have tried to get these neighbors to not give him any since we are giving it to him but they have their own agenda. Usually charging dad 2x what a beer costs. Dad's dementia is much worse now but he's home and for now things are pretty good. (with the exception of me having to go against his will to take care of the property).

So you ask, where does he get the money to buy beer? He gets a small pension check each month that is mailed to his house. If he doesn't have money he trades fruit or wire or whatever they will take that he has lying around. I am going to have his pension direct deposited because he has started to walk into town to the bank, which he cannot do at all. Anyway, it's always something.

You need to have his money direct deposited. Do NOT ever let him drive again. When his dementia gets severe enough, he will be eligible to go right into a nursing home, not AL. Or he'll have a stroke or take a fall and be hospitalized and then go into a nursing home.... It sounds like he would be miserable in AL, and they wouldn't be happy with him. He is not going to be the darling old man greeting visitors, leading singalongs, and making everyone laugh and smile in the day room.  I say, let him have $10 a week to blow on beer if he wants, (trading random stuff for beer??? Really - WOW) - what else has he got to do.....Now, if he has become an alcoholic fairly recently in life, I can see why you would be upset, and I do understand wanting him to sober up enough to get into assisted living, but if he has been alcoholic for decades, I really don't think that will ever happen. He would have to be admitted to a hospital to 'dry out'. It's a very sticky situation, I am sorry to read about this, I know what you want in an ideal world, but most certainly  most of us don't get our vision of an ideal world..... My grandmother was a 'caregiver' for an old man (more of a babysitter for the weekend while his family was away) and her old man was an alcoholic, but he was on oxygen, using a walker, and he was allowed 2 beers a night, no more.  There was nothing he could do, and no one he could call to bring more beer as there was one phone and that was in the locked bedroom.  Not that he had the smarts to use a phone anyway.)  It went very well, he was on his best behavior and had his two beers and went to bed without a peep.  

If he's in a home, he'll have no choice, but to stop drinking. My brother was an alcoholic, too, but he just had no access to alcohol, so he had to stop drinking. He was in a nursing home a little over a year with no alcohol. Just don't take anything to him that's not allowed by he home and he has no way to get any.