How do you know what stage of Alzheimer's your parent has?

How do you think it would help to know what stage she is in? Her symptoms will be what they are whether you can call this stage 3 or stage 6.

If she has Alzheimer's, you can easily find descriptions of the stages on this site or by doing a web search. Then you can decide which one best seems to fit your mother. If she has some other kind of dementia then the Alzheimer stages will not be meaningful.

What most of us really want to know is "how long will she be like this" and "what comes next." The "stages" may help answer the second question, but how soon someone will transition into a new stage is anybody's guess. Even if you could say confidently that "Mom is in stage 4" you would not know how long it will last. Change can be very gradual or sudden.

By all means, become familiar with the general patterns in the kind of dementia your mother has, but don't focus too much on "what stage." You'll still have to deal with whatever symptoms she has day-by-day.

Here is one list of the stages: https://www.agingcare.com/articles/Stages-of-Alzheimers-disease-118964.htm

I too, wanted to know what stage my mothers PD dementia was in - my mothers neurologist said to me very gently, "why?" I hated the answer but understood that knowing the stage won't change her behaviors or the progression of the dementia. For me I thought if I knew I could educate myself and be further prepared to deal with the different behaviors or have a better understanding what what I should say, could say, etc. What I'm finding out however, it doesn't matter because everyday is different. A very compassionate person well schooled in dementia told me a few weeks ago that "you can meet several dementia people over the course of your career, and sometimes you can see generalities. When you meet a person with dementia you have met one person with dementia." What I take from this is everybody with memory care issues are different therefore, every dementia is different. There are generalities, but not all people go through the stages in the order that are stated. I can tell you that for me, not being able to put a label on where my mother was/is/will be causes me distress because of my personality. I can't fix this. I want to be helpful and sometimes the behaviors are not easy to understand. I can only react to the behaviors, and thank the Lord that I have a sounding board such as this to ask questions. I'm hoping this somehow helps you because I completely understand why you want to know the stage.

Family/Friends/Medical Staff/ every caregiver must understand the individual has Alzheimer's Disease and the nature of Confabulation .

It is difficult for everyone to accept a mind is damaged by Alzheimer's Disease. Not only is memory damaged their ability to process thoughts and conversations is impaired.By far, the most serious danger is acting on confabulated information and believing it to be accurate

Confabulating is distinct from lying because there is no intent to deceive, and the person being unaware that the information is blatantly false. Carers challenge: is what they say true?

Understand the similarities between confabulation and delusions; e.g., both involve the production of unintentional false statements, both are very resistant to contradictory evidence.

Recognize delusions that are frequently observed in Alzheimer#s patients include beliefs about theft, the patient#s house not being his home, a
spouse, is an impostor, belief an intruder is in the house,abandonment, spousal infidelity, and paranoia.

It seems that Alzheimer's world is fraught with confabulation speak.

The general public doesn't understand Alzheimer's they certainly need to be educated regarding Confabulation.

My boss at work gave me something she downloaded from Amazon that gave the stages of Alzheimer's. My daughter and I watched it and were very sad afterward because my mother was already in stage 7. We probably watched this about 6 months ago and my mom passed away the end of this past April. I like structure in my life, and knowing the parameters of the stages was like structure for me. Even though each person goes through this journey at a different rate, as one other person commented, you never know how long each stage will last with each person. Even so, I think it does help even if only a little to have as much knowledge about it as you can. This disease makes you feel so helpless to help your loved one that learning all you can about it is maybe about the best you can do. That and a lot of prayer. She did cry in her sleep sometimes but most of that was her praying over her family. She did talk in her sleep too but a lot of that was hallucinations for which we had to start some medication and this got better. As much as you learn about the disease, just don't let it define her. She is still that person on the inside even if she can't convey it the same way anymore. Just love her.

Flexible is the key word. My concern with stages is a fear people see the stages as set in stone.

It has been told to me that if you seen one person with Alzheimer's you have seen one. No two are alike.

Alz org has tremendous collection of helpful stuff.

Since 2009 I have been collecting Alzheimer's information and caregiving stuff and posting to my blogs with the thought that I could go back and re-read. Recently I have been merging those blogs onto "MainZone Knowledge Network" and sometimes I stop and add to the index in the right hand column. IT IS A PASTIME activity not a source of income.

I am a planning nut, long term plans fascinate me.

I had a heart attack last month. Suddenly it occurred to me that my plans lack planning for what will happen if I drop dead and I am not resuscitated. We live alone may ADW requires 24/7 attention. . Children are on west coast. Having coded and been revived by CPR. I have an appointment this week with our elder affairs attorney and A.A.Aging case manager to draw up the what if I drop dead plan. This different from MOLST or health care proxy type plans.
This was a wake up call to get plans in place. It was aTotally unexpected event.

This is in the late stage of dementia. Next is loss of muscle movement.

I do know when they start wandering you are in more advanced stages. Regardless, there is no cure for it and at this point they need around-the-clock care which means either impound them in a nursing home or have a 24-hour-a-day caregiver around.

my mom also has false memories. and constantly askes me,"dont you remember?" which I couldn't possibly because of what she's saying supposedly took place when I was a baby :).. like some have said, it doesn't matter what stage their in I guess. cant be changed, or fixed. just make sure medically no issues, like uti's or bladder infections.. but I guess you just smile and love them while you can. good luck

Well I DO understand the desire to know what stage they are in and the cause of their cognitive decline. There is a timeline involved in each phase, and although it may be pretty flexible it still helps to know when making long term plans. Several years ago I was lead to believe my mother wouldn't last another year, and although I probably would have made the same choices it would have saved me a lot of frustration along the way.
BTW, my mom is still undiagnosed but due to her history and sudden decline I'm sure she has vascular dementia or perhaps mixed dementia and has spent the past few years winding her way through stage 6.

Those of us who are by nature "planners" feel a need to know what to expect. Money plays a large part in this. When will mom require 24/7 care in assisted living? How soon can I expect her to need a secure memory care facility? Since the memory care facilities don't accept Medicaid, should I move her to a nursing home now so that I can place her in a nicer one that requires a year of self-pay before accepting Medicaid assignment? These are the thoughts that have rolled around in my brain for the past nine years, even though I know that there is no way to predict the course of her dementia. Knowing the future would make these decisions so much easier. Unlimited funds would make them unnecessary.