
My husband just had his second stroke; 2021 (1st mild), In 2023 he proclaimed he was cured and no more meds for him (refused to take them). Feb 2026 4 strokes 3 left, 1 right. His cognition is terrible, cannot trouble shoot, cannot retain anything for more than 3 minutes. I am trying to coordinate, PT/OT/ST plus pay his debts, set up disability, and did not notice his decline. I am so, so, so overwhelmed in trying to figure out what I have to deal with. I have PoA medical and financial but I do not feel right acting on it. I am trying to give him a sense of ownership, of self. But I am falling to pieces. I am overwhelmed.As I asked how do you keep sane? How do I find time for "ME!!!!" While trying to figure all this out it is 10-12hrs days, trying to figure out access to something. It is draining, frustrating, and I cannot lose my temper. arghhhhh I am losing my mind.
Caregiving happens on the caregiver's term or else you will burn out (as you are finding out). Time to make yourself the priority and do self-care so that you can endure the marathon. You MAKE time for yourself. You expect it, demand it. You eat the elephant one bite at a time and every single day make sure you do something for yourself. Without exception. Tell your friends to hold you accountable to give yourself quality time every day.
I'm so sorry for this turn of events. May you receive wisdom and peace in your heart as you protect your own health as you help your husband.