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My mother passed in February. My siblings and I took turns caring for her here for 11 months as she declined. We cleaned out her house as much as possible before I called a halt. It got to be too much for me. This is my childhood home so my siblings respected my wish to stop. My father who’s lived with me for the last 10 years (they were separated) now wants to sell the house. I thought after so many months it would be easier, but it’s so much harder. I’m falling apart. It’s like I’m losing her all over again. Why is it even harder after almost 9 months? How did some of you get through this?

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Cindy, it sometimes can be very difficult to sell a childhood home.... but remember, even if the house is sold, the memories that go along with the house are not sold. There will still be Kodak moments that can be shared, and stories to tell about the wonderful times with that house.

Think of it this way, now another family can have wonderful memories when they buy the house :)
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You are still grieving and the house is the last place you have memories of your Mum. But really the memories are in your heart and mind, not the four walls of the house.

Have you received any grief counseling since her death?

Why does your Dad have a say in the matter? Did he have some claim on the house?
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Don’t do it alone. Do it as a family. My brother was really good. He told me to take all the things out of the house I wanted and he did everything. He did the cleaning his wife staged the property and they painted it all cleaned the carpets. I bought them a gift of a weekend away. They were happy with that. I find it sad when the house was gone but I kept a lot of thingd
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It is difficult getting rid if things that hold so many good memories. It might help to know that 9 months after a loss grief can flare up pretty seriously so that may be part of what you are feeling. It will get easier with time. Maybe try again after you are over the one year anniversary of your mother's death. People are different in how they cope with things like this. Some need to hang on longer than others. ((((((hugs)))))
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