Wish I knew. I have developed 2 escape behaviors every day. Doulingo ( learning French) and a word search app. Every day I spend at least 45 minutes on the French lessons and the word games. It does help. When the weather is nice, I take my almost 2 year old shepherd /husky on long walks. Doing something away from my mother does provide some sense of self or , jerks a memory of how my life used to be.
Not always easy but we all have to try to do our best. Depending on what it is that you are dealing with, I find thinking that my mom can't help it, that it's her decline, not "her", in charge of her behavior, helpful to keep from getting overtly frustrated.
I find venting here and to a couple of close friends helpful as well.
I find venting here and to a couple of close friends helpful as well.