My father has Dementia and lives alone. My sister, her husband and myself all have POA. His doctor says he needs to be placed in a memory care facility. We have kept him at home as long as possible. We don't live in the same city as dad. And have tried hard to take care of him. But at this point he's way beyond us taking care of him.
Once we have everything in place, how do we actually get dad to the facility? He will not get in the car and go with us, he will refuse, he will physically fight us. Do we have to go to the sheriff 's office and have them pick him up and take him?. He has already threaten if we try to remove him from his home he will disappear. He is home bound and can't drive. (I have his car keys). But he may just take off walking somewhere. He has gotten lost twice already.
We are at wits end on how to proceed with physically getting him there. And him not hurting anyone.
What are our options?