As my mother's Alzheimers progresses, our family is getting more and more calls of paranoia, I'm lonely, I'm depressed calls, and crying fits. She lives with a man, who is getting frustrated and threatening to leave all the time. Each time my sister and I try to come up with plans of action or suggestions that would help orient or calm my mother, she rejects the ideas and gets mad, demanding no change. She has always been difficult and self centered to those who know her close, but sweet to outsiders. I'm having difficulty trying to separate the disease from the person I have known all my life. I'm visiting 5 times a week, but it always ends with the same pitiful me. I can't make changes to help the situation, but I cant keep things the way they are. Does a person just make the change and deal with the fallout?