My grandparents have been living with my parents for the past year, after we got them to finally sell their house. They are 92 and 90, both have Alzheimer's, and caring for them has become overwhelming for my mom. Incontinence is a major issue along with personal hygiene. We do not have the type of relationship with them where they'd allow us to help them shower or anything like that. We can't get my grandma to wear depends, and my grandpa doesn't wear his properly, and almost daily poop is getting on the floors and furniture. We know it's time for them to move to assisted living (possibly memory care), but they are not open to it at all, nor is it possible to have a rational conversation with them. It just results in them planning an escape back to Illinois (we're in Georgia). This whole situation feels nearly impossible. Plus, we don't even know how they can afford assisted living.. so far what we've looked at it is way out of their budget. We don't even fully understand their insurance/Medicare situation, but I know for sure that they didn't pay into any long-term care. I am in the process of figuring all this out, and I'm just hoping someone on here - maybe another person in GA - can point us toward some resources. I'm wondering if we need to find a social worker or someone that can help us through this, as it is such a high stress emotional situation for everyone involved. TIA!