My 82 yo mom who insists on living alone 30 miles from me is acting out because I’m going to visit my daughter in CA for Turkey day. This is my only living child (her brother died 5 years ago) and I only get to visit once a year. I care for my mom in that I go to her at least twice a month and help at her home, take her shopping and out to eat. She also has a caregiver 2 x week. Mom is laying the sarcasm on thick even though I recently drove her on a five day trip to visit her family. I believe she is masking her hurt that she will be alone by this sarcasm/verbal aggression. She is real introverted, won’t reach out for community assistance, plays the victim card and only wants to be with her family. Even refuses to go to my brother’s in-laws. I have had to scale back how much she uses me because 1) I am a broke widow and 2) I’m trying to rebuild my life after the deaths of my husband and son. I have been chauffeur for her since my dad died 10 years ago and honestly I’m tired. P.S. it is not an option to take her to CA with me. She is stingy with her money and expects me to buy the plane tickets and hotel. Whereas if it’s just me I stay with my daughter.