My father has terminal cancer and has suffered many other traumatic health issues over the past 7 months. He hasn’t organized anything for himself as far as a proper POA or living will. He’s been on the edge of death a few times and has made almost complete recovery. He’s a warrior in many ways. Every time he’s made a recovery I’ve pleaded with him to make proper arrangements and he doesn’t. When he dives into critical condition there is mass chaos and drama, causing a lot of stress and harm to me. Our family is incredibly dysfunctional, so that makes it even harder and stressful. Add I live 3000 miles away. I want to run to him every time something is wrong, but when I ask for something, it gets throw back in my face. How do I exist in this situation and still protect myself? How do I be the daughter he needs and not get sick myself? He is in the last phase of life and I feel guilty not being able to be there 100% of the time to protect him. It’s bridging on toxic behavior, which is not uncommon for him in general. I’d love some thoughts or advice on this.