How do I stop mom’s politically incorrect mouth?

Laugh it off and roll your eyes. the larger concern is the future when the least of your worries will be inappropriate comments. If the little things are what bothering you now, it could be you are starting to resent the intrusion on your life and are starting to think how out much will be out if your control. Sit down with your mom and talk about the future.

As we age we are no longer afraid of the fallout of what we say. No jobs to be fired from no people (that matter) to judge you. Perhaps the rest of the world needs to hear what we all think. I agree foul mouthed statements are no appropriate but every voice should be heard. Think about it for a minute the only reason trump was elected is because he said what others were afraid to say.

You can't change your mother; you can only change how you respond to her; if her behavior is damaging to your household she needs to be told to find other living arrangements, and you will help ensure she is safe and comfortable. It's the old 'oil and water' situation, simple incompatibility; you may not have had a choice when growing up in her household, but you have a choice now in your own home. The mental health of your children and yourself come first in your own home.

I think the best thing you can do for your kids is to encourage them to express their own opinions, respectfully disagree with her if that’s how they feel. They are likely to encounter other people like your mom (a boss maybe?) . Trying to shelter them does them no favors. And if mom isn’t happy? Well there’s always the nursing home, lol. As long as they keep it RESPECTFUL. Rudeness would be wrong, even if she’s rude.

Everyone is an adult in the group, so have a group meeting with a Geriatric Psychologist or Psychiatrist. Everyone in the group should understand that they have the right to stay or go, but if you want everyone in the room to have the same opinions and perspective, that sounds like a "group think" cult.

You don't have to live this way if you're willing to change. Be aware, your polite adult children will eventually go out in the world where they'll need to work with people of different views and experiences: rude and polite.

Do you have a plan for change?

Teach your children to say kindly and cheerfully "can't quite agree with you there, Grandma."

If your mother thinks she's perfect, let her be. Doesn't mean everyone else has to think so. You certainly don't, do you?

It is your house and if she is making you miserable by being there, I think she needs to find different living arrangements. I am not always comfortable at my in-laws house because of their political beliefs, but it is their house and when I get uncomfortable, I leave. Same with my husband and my folks (and most of my friends), but we are both respectful about it, and so are our kids. Do your kids have good memories of their grandmother? Is this changing some of those feelings? That would be sad, so maybe less time together might result in more quality time when you are together.

Misogynistic ways i would not tolerate, especially if you have kids or even young adults and they still forming their opinions, or are more confused than ever re: women’s appearance, roles etc. How many still feel not happy with their bodies, appearance?
So maybe tell Mom gently( or not so gently): to stop that, it is harmful, on the other hand maybe redirect kids to completely different views of becoming totally confident female or respectful male.

Grateful1too: It may be hard to change her ways if she's always been this way. However, it is your house and she shouldn't be spouting off her thoughts/beliefs.

Wanta know what friends called my critical, political late mother? Diarrhea of the mouth.

She had bipolar mental illness and was rude to everyone, including me.

How do your children feel, do they want Grandma to go?

Are your children literally young adults? College age? Or at least close to it?

Because at that age, the lesson to be learned is that one has to coexist with people whose political values differ. Rather than absorb this, I saw anecdotes every day from young people about how they’re refusing to go to Thanksgiving if there was a Trump supporter/pro lifer etc. at the table. I am neither of these things but I learned back then, and absolutely had to, that politics is just their view of the world, they have the exact same vote.

She is who she is. You will not be able to stop her from having her personality or opinions. However, you can talk to your kids about her behavior and how they feel. You can also work to change the subject when she gets on her soap box. If she is resistant, you and the family can move to another room for a short "time out" to let tempers cool. If you find her behavior is causing major disruptions in the relationships with your children and/or spouse, it might be wisest to help her find another place to live.