How do I stop getting angry?

Thank you x

From what your profile says, your mother has dementia/Alzheimer's, which means her brain is broken. She cannot help what she thinks or says. Perhaps if you educate yourself more on the disease, you won't find yourself getting so angry all the time. Teepa Snow has some great videos on You Tube you can watch about dementia/Alzheimer's, and the book The 36 Hour Day is a great read as well. She's not intentionally trying to make you mad, and I think once you really understand and grasp that, your patience with her will improve.
Things with your mothers mind will only continue to get worse, so if you're wanting to continue to be in her life, you're going to have to figure out how to deal with her without the anger. The easiest solution at this point, would be just to agree with her, no matter how silly it may seem or sound to you, as there is no reasoning with a brain that is broken. I wish you well.

My mom laughs at silly things, too, but won’t deal with her reality. That is part of the MCD she was diagnosed with 1.5 years ago. It won’t get better. I do catch myself saying “she wasn’t like this before“. Then, I remember, this is the way it will be. She won’t “return“ to her old self.

I know these annoying, silly comments from mom are signs that her brain is not working as it used to. We don’t have long conversations and I’ve set up boundaries because I don’t want to feel angry at her all the time.

Repeat to myself “it’s the disease”.

Stop talking to her for a week or two and give yourself a break.

She has cares, so you do not need to be at her beck and call.

It is okay to set and enforce boundaries for dealing with your aged parents, dementia or not.

Maybe try putting yourself on autopilot and answer "uh huh" or "yup" to her comments that are nonsensical. Don't waste your emotional energy on responding and expecting her to somehow be her "prior" self. She can't help it and it doesn't help you. Do what is easiest for you. May you receive peace in your heart.

Don’t tell her so much. She’s lost reasoning and judgment, she cannot help her comments. Anger isn’t going to change her, but it certainly isn’t good for you. I wish you calm and peace

It's not easy dealing with dementia, so the best thing to do is to keep your 'conversations' short & sweet as possible. When your mother starts making ridiculous comments, change the subject. I don't tell my mother ANYTHING about my worries or concerns b/c all she cares about is herself & I know that. So if I start bringing myself into the conversation, it will definitely irritate me (more than usual) when she turns the subject back onto herself.

She will also tell me things like the caregivers have stolen her old bras, as if young girls would WANT a 94 year old woman's old used brassieres! Come on! But then, you really just can't argue with dementia b/c it just causes even MORE arguing since they insist on being right all the time! If I say black, she says white; then I'll agree it's white and she's saying it was gray all along. So, I'll get off the phone before my head explodes! :)

Try sticking to 'neutral' subjects (if there is such a thing) and let all the gibberish roll of your back as much as you possibly can. Maybe cut down the amount of contact you have with mom, or take a 'vacation' for a week; I've been known to tell mine that DH and I are going to the mountains for a week away from everything and will be incommunicado when I need a rest from all the insanity that comes with dementia!

Good luck!