How do I get my mom to get some help from other people instead of us? she always says that all her friends and nieces tell her if she needs anything, just give them a call. It’s really getting exhausting to go down there every week to cut grass and handle the plumbing. We need a day just for us. Sure, if we are able to ride together, we get three hours. Then we start doing things. For example, my husband has Sunday, Monday and Tuesday off work and we are dropping my FIL at my BIL's and going to my mom's Sunday and Monday. The thing is that my husband wants to do everything for her so she doesn’t have to ask anyone else. She feels sorry for us having my FIL here, but she doesn’t think going down there is also a lot. Anyway, her hairdresser messaged me (she has been awesome) and said she told my mom if we cannot make it down to cut the grass, her husband would be happy to do it. My mom never mentioned anything about it. I asked her and said she doesn’t want that. I said that would really help us out, especially when my husband only has two days off. How do I get her to ask others for help?