How do I get a friend's children to help me with their father?

Has it occurred to you that the children may not want you involved? That might occur if you're the father's girl or lady friend.

I don't know and that's all I'm going to say.

Beats me. You've given us absolutely nothing to work with, so good luck to you.

You don't, unfortunately no one even children are obligated to care for an elderly parent.

You don't. That is pretty much full stop and end of sentence.

You self-righteously DEMAND they help you with their father?

No?

If you are caring for a boyfriend who's children refuse to help you, and you took on this care willingly, then you're on your own, really. Children are not obligated to do hands on care for their parents and why would they, if YOU are doing it FOR them, may be their rationale here. But again, you're asking a loaded question in a snarky way, so you can't expect to get any real answers.

Rethink your question; rephrase it with more details and lay it all out there so you can get some REAL answers to what is obviously a dilemma you're facing!

How do you get people to help? You ask them.

They can choose to help. Or not.

If not, you widen the search. If no free help is offered, you pay for it.

Have you asked them to help and they refuse? It's very common. So there is nothing you can do. You will have to find other ways to get help. Like hiring someone.

They are not obligated to help. They could be refusing for many different
reasons. If they've shown no willingness to help, don't ask again.

You have to give us more info. How did you become caregiver for a friend?