Sorry, this is a forum of Caregivers caring for LOs in some capacity. There is no "chat" here or professional to directly talk to. Just people who have probably shared the same circumstance your in. So, you need to give us some more background for us to offer solutions.
How old are u and he How did you get involved in his care What kind of care does he need
You can't You can not "get" someone to do something they do not want to do. And from a personal point of view I do not know if I would want someone caring for me that was being forced, coerced, bullied into caring for me. What you can do is forget trying to get them to help their dad. This gentleman should pay to have the caregivers that he needs to manage. Once his funds are depleted then the application process for Medicaid can begin. Before that though look for all the ways that he can get help from whatever resource is available. Is he a Veteran? If so the VA may be of help. A copy of his DD214 and a call or trip to the Veterans Assistance Commission and he can find out what benefits he is entitled to. Contact the Area Agency on Aging, request a needs assessment and there may be services that he would qualify for.
You self-righteously DEMAND they help you with their father?
No?
If you are caring for a boyfriend who's children refuse to help you, and you took on this care willingly, then you're on your own, really. Children are not obligated to do hands on care for their parents and why would they, if YOU are doing it FOR them, may be their rationale here. But again, you're asking a loaded question in a snarky way, so you can't expect to get any real answers.
Rethink your question; rephrase it with more details and lay it all out there so you can get some REAL answers to what is obviously a dilemma you're facing!
Have you asked them to help and they refuse? It's very common. So there is nothing you can do. You will have to find other ways to get help. Like hiring someone.
Sorry, this is a forum of Caregivers caring for LOs in some capacity. There is no "chat" here or professional to directly talk to. Just people who have probably shared the same circumstance your in. So, you need to give us some more background for us to offer solutions.
How old are u and he
How did you get involved in his care
What kind of care does he need
You can not "get" someone to do something they do not want to do.
And from a personal point of view I do not know if I would want someone caring for me that was being forced, coerced, bullied into caring for me.
What you can do is forget trying to get them to help their dad.
This gentleman should pay to have the caregivers that he needs to manage.
Once his funds are depleted then the application process for Medicaid can begin.
Before that though look for all the ways that he can get help from whatever resource is available.
Is he a Veteran? If so the VA may be of help. A copy of his DD214 and a call or trip to the Veterans Assistance Commission and he can find out what benefits he is entitled to.
Contact the Area Agency on Aging, request a needs assessment and there may be services that he would qualify for.
No?
If you are caring for a boyfriend who's children refuse to help you, and you took on this care willingly, then you're on your own, really. Children are not obligated to do hands on care for their parents and why would they, if YOU are doing it FOR them, may be their rationale here. But again, you're asking a loaded question in a snarky way, so you can't expect to get any real answers.
Rethink your question; rephrase it with more details and lay it all out there so you can get some REAL answers to what is obviously a dilemma you're facing!
reasons. If they've shown no willingness to help, don't ask again.
They can choose to help. Or not.
If not, you widen the search. If no free help is offered, you pay for it.