I live in South Africa in a small town at the coast. Even if you just talk to me it will be ok. I feel desperate. My mother has very serious Alzheimer's and my dad serious dementia. He has no short term memory. I can visit them in the morning for a few hours and late in the afternoon he will come out of the bathroom and ask me if I have just arrived. His logic is also gone. My mum is seriously ill, physically and mentally and he denies it. He is extremely stubborn. When my mum tells him about all the "terrible people" that are threatening them inside and outside the house, he goes along and believes that it is ghosts that he can't see, but that they are haunting the house. Telling him that it is part of my mother's illness is to no avail. Everybody is in some way a threat to her, even me. I have helped them through the years. But now it is getting too much. They have no friends and hardly any family left. I am a single mum with a teenager threatening to leave the country if I don't distance myself from the situation. Staying with them is not an option. My problem at the moment is that they don't want to open the gate and house for me at times. I nearly had the police breaking down the doors last week. My dad changes the locks on the gate on a daily basis, really. They double bolt their doors in the house from the inside. They don't answer their phone. They need help but fight me and everyone that wants to help. They are at heart very dear people but my dad's stubbornness and my mum's very critical outlook on life has now taken its toll and intensified in their illnesses. Their personal hygiene is .suffering so is everything else. It is a constant and daily battle with them. I feel that I am letting them down, yet my other self is saying that there is no much more that I can do if they block me this way. In our country they have got the last say. Making peace within my heart seems the only way. Please talk to me. Thank you so much.