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MIL needs 24/7 care. Has Parkinson’s, dementia, hallucinations and is fall risk. I’m with her 95% of the time.


She looks out the window constantly, saying someone is here, my husband just pulled up from work, mailman is trying to find a place to park, someone trying to open the gate, etc.


None if this is true. She won’t let up until I go look out the window. She doesn’t even have access to see any possibility of this happening in the street. She sees the back yard area.


This goes on all day, every day. She takes seroquel and meds for Parkinson’s. They have said they don’t have much room left to adjust these two meds. I gently tell her I don’t see what she is seeing, or, must have been a vehicle that looks the same, but again, she can’t see the driveway.


Please, any suggestions appreciated.


I can’t take much more of having to run to the window every 20 minutes or so to check it out.

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95% of my mother’s dementia symptoms were hallucinations and delusions. The earliest sign of trouble was when she was sure a man who lived in her apartment building was staking her. She became so upset one night when she thought he was trying to break into her apartment that she tripped and fell and wound up in the ER. When I moved her to a facility, the hallucinating and delusions ramped up. Her room was an apartment in Chicago. She was a famous New York stage actress. A “young boy” was riding his bike down the “street” outside her “apartment” and stealing her underwear, then waving it around as a prize. It got worse from there. I often told her I would speak to the charge nurse, who she really liked and that she would tell them to keep away from her (my mom). Of course I said nothing to the nurse, but it seemed to placate my mom for a spell. When your mom makes an innocuous remark about someone in the driveway, just agree and go on about your business. Acknowledge that she’s said something but don’t explain it away or run to the window and then try to convince her there’s no one there. You can’t. In her mind, it’s very real. It’s an obsession. She will eventually move on to something else.
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againx100 May 2019
Exactly! No need to run to the window and pretend you're seeing what she's seeing. Just come up with some standard answers and try not to let it bother you.
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