My two brothers, sister and I moved my parents into assisted living when my mom asked for help at age 97. She was primary caregiver to my dad, 101, with a colostomy and macular degeneration. My mom broke her hip shortly after moving into assisted living and died from complications.
My dad sits by himself all day. He doesn't watch TV or join activities because he's legally blind but is mentally very sharp. He goes to the dining room for breakfast, skips lunch but gos for dinner. I live 40 miles away, visit him several times a week, do his laundry and call him every night. My brother lives closer and visits 1x week. Other brother lives out of state but does come and visit every day while in town and calls Dad most days. My daughter lives close, takes her young kids to visit several times a month and calls sometimes.
My sister lives 20 minutes away, visits once every few months and calls Dad less than once every few months. She also has 4 adult kids who do the same.
Dad is very lonely; mom and dad were married 74 years. The whole family gathered at our parents' home for all the holidays and summers visits and we are all close and get along well.
When I talk with Dad, in person or on the phone, he enjoys talking and my brothers and I often ask him about one of his favorite subjects just so he'll carry the conversation and be involved (even though we've heard most of his stories many times. ;-))
How can I get my sister and her kids to at least give him a call?
One time I asked my sister right out: "Why don't you call dad?" And she replied, "I don't know."