My friend is living with her parents. Her mom has what I would consider advanced dementia, needing help with personal care, with all that that means. The dad suffered an injury a few years back and can't help with her care. I know this is hard, frustrating and lonely for my friend and it has seriously impacted her life. Like most of you, this is not what she planned to be doing with her life. I want to be supportive and encouraging to her, but I don't know how. I cannot physically assist with her mom's care and I don't know how else to help.
In another thread there was much discussion about how a person not in this position can't possibly understand or care, and I feel like that outsider here. Please help me to help my friend. Tell me how you would like to be understood or cared for.