I'm not sure how much more of this I can take. How are we supposed to handle being constantly accused of all kinds of nonsense on top of everything else we have to do to care for a LO with dementia? My mom has created quite the intricate web of stories to explain this growing group of hallucinations she has daily (day and night). Of course these people bother her because my husband and I have invited them here specifically to upset her. Whey would we do such a thing? Because we think it's funny and we are trying to make her crazy and kill her. Those are the most extreme accusations and we pretty much hear that daily, dependent upon her mood. Then mixed in throughout the day are things like "my wallet is missing" - it's locked in the safe. "I can't find my cell phone, you were just in my room doing something with it so where did you put it?" - you just went into your room with your cell phone so where did YOU put it? I just found it hidden in the pocket of her walker. Of course it's my fault it's there. This started an entire tirade about how I am treating her like a young school girl and how I want to verbally attack her every single chance I get. What kind of daughter does this to her mother etc. It literally goes on and on and on and on with no break. Today I just lost it with her. I get that it's the disease talking but she says crap she used to say before the dementia ever set in and I think that's what really gets me. EVERYTHING is about her and her needs. My husband and I are totally sleep deprived and have busted our asses trying to take care of her 24/7 and this is complete and total bullshit. How is anyone supposed to care for someone with dementia? I am most certainly a failure at it and I am not afraid to admit this is beyond anything I think I can handle. This is professional care territory all the way. How can non-professionals possibly deal with this???
Oh, our "finding a caregiver" update...someone was supposed to start today but she wasn't feeling well and the agency has sent her to get tested for Covid!!! This is a no win situation across the board!