I’d like to thank you in advance for listening and providing advice.
3 months ago my Mother in Law -59 years old (who then lived in Chicago) had a psychiatric episode which left her unable to follow simple directions, communicate, bath and sometimes feed herself. At that time we made the decision to move her to where we reside (Milwaukee, WI).
Initially she was in the hospital for 3 weeks and was released into our care. At home she was doing well (for her) and we felt optimistic. During this time, she was in a day program for mental health and seeing doctors regularly. 5-6 weeks later the doctor unexpectedly took her off Ativan and we saw a quick decline, causing her to be readmitted into the psychiatric hospital for a month.
At the hospital they are bathing her, cutting her food and have her in a soft food diet (due to her choking for unexplained reasons-a throat study was done). The hospital is now pushing for discharge and we are not comfortable bringing her home (we have a baby due in 8 weeks, 2 year old, and 15 year old and both work Full time and live in a 1200 square foot house and do not feel like we can safely or conveniently take care of her given our other responsibilities, especially because she can’t be left alone it sounds like.
We have seen her go through ups and downs (sometimes shaky and nervous sometimes great, communicating and seeming somewhat independent. For example, yesterday she ate, was happy and communicated well and even asked if her SSDI check came. We prepped her that she couldn’t come home with us (she didn’t like this because she’d like to stay with us for free) and that in the morning someone would be coming to assess her for housing. The next day, she woke up, showered and went to her group therapy. An hour later, the group home assessor came and she refused to get out of bed, slurred her words and couldn’t answer simple questions. Needless to say, this was the 2nd group home that denied her. I then called the nurse and tech and they said she was fine, telling them what she needs help with and making requests. After the assessor left, she went to group and ate lunch.
I talked to 5-6 nursing homes who won’t take her because of the mental health.
At this stage, it looks like we will have to bring her home, attempt to stabilize her and and attempt to get her housing, but we are not sure if that’s in the foreseeable future.
Has as anyone dealt with being denied housing for a mental health condition and if so, what solution(s) did you find? P.S. we have multiple case workers through crisis management, elderly and disabled and a Community Care program that are not being helpful.