My wife's father is 89 yrs old. he goes to dialysis 3x a week. A young nurse has been making passes at him and we just found out that they went on a date this past sat. night. He has problems walking, can't catch breath and is very gullible.
This doesn't sound good. As Miette said, if they'd met elsewhere the situation would be different, but under these conditions the nurse should not be seeing him socially. This sounds highly inappropriate. I'd check into it. Carol
Oh, my!! Yes, this is strictly forbidden. It is a professional responsibility of all staff, no matter what role, to maintain a professional distance. A Psychiatric Doctor as well as a nurse should be held accountable for crossing this line. If they had never met in the professional setting, they could date. This is true throughout the nation.
By "young", I'm assuming anyone under 89 yrs.? Usually there are guidelines put in place for registered nurses, but if this is a CNA, she won't have the same consequences. Speak with the director of nursing at your loved one's dialysis place of business and let them know. However, before making any allegations, you had better have proof she went on a "date" with him, and not something he made up. To ruin a career is very serious.
This type of behavior is unethical. The nurse's behavior should be reported to the Director of the dialysis center. This type of behavior should never happen; this is how abuse and exploitation begins. If she has this kind of behavior with your dad, she's probably has had this behavior in the past and will do it aging in the future.
My mom fantasizes about a dr and would tell me fantastical sTories of their dates, weekends away, etc. anyone would think it very real. I asked to be introduced and then offered to drive mom to an appt with him...knowing it wasn't true. She wouldn't go to the appt or invite him over...
I would talk to dad, go with him and ask him to introduce you to her...if it's true, then you can do something...if it's a fantasy on his part, then you can make nurses and CNA aware.
Before becoming my mother's caregiver, I was a full time financial advisor. I've actually seen 2 different clients write employees from the nursing homes into their Wills. These clients don't understand that these people are already getting paid to be there for them. In one instance, the whole family took it to court and won, luckily. I can't speak for hospitals, but most nursing homes have an ethics code. Not all do! And even then, all they can do is terminate their employment. Hardly a consequence for manipulating elderly patients for financial gain. I would investigate and get as much information possible. It's sad to say that there are people in this world with despicable motives. Let's hope this isn't the case here!
Carol
I would talk to dad, go with him and ask him to introduce you to her...if it's true, then you can do something...if it's a fantasy on his part, then you can make nurses and CNA aware.
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