Trying a new agency AGAIN. This one is another 'reputable' one supposedly. Nurse came. Seems nice and caring and all that but then she asks mom directly without even glancing in my direction if she has "dementia issues". Guess what mom's answer was? I thought later of calling them and talking to her privately but then I thought why should I have to do this. Why isnt' this a given that someone with advanced PD would not be totally honest. Am I being too hard on these people because I'm burnt out from dealing with ALL of this?
I'm surprised that this has happened repeatedly unless the person you are caring for is in such an early stage that the dementia doesn't show. And since you are burned out to a point, it seems obvious that the person's dementia is advanced. I'd call the agency and ask why that particular question is asked. They may have an explanation that I can't think of.
Sounds like you have a plan... take care of you first.... then see what can be done for mom... I am sorry you are having to have surgery and pray it is not going to keep you down for long....but if it does, take advantage of your down time.... get strong and healthy before taking on your moms issues again....
Guess the medical profession is as burned out as we are.... am hearing more and more of this kind of thing..... not enough people around who know what they are doing... but subpar care for mom is not going to happen either... you are in my prayers.... hope your surgery goes well.... and hope you find some help that you don't have to 'help'....
I would just give it time with the home care agency and see how they work out. Good luck!