Both parents in serious need of medical & physical assistance. I've been ONLY one living here & caring for EVERYTHING, while disabled & financially dependent on them (ma). Ma & niece snuck off to sign over things to niece, while ma mentally & physically incompetent and refusing medical attention. Only 2 almost die. Ma & niece have been using & abusing my dad for last 4-5 yrs (ma, always), while forcing, threatening & manhandling him into giving over all control of his $. I'm 56, losing my medical fight, been pleading for families help for parents because I CAN'T do it anymore! Any referrals for Narcissist & a families cycle of abuse "Attorney" my dad can afford. Elder protection is a huge concern. Thank You
Plus, if either parent has dementia, she/he would be unable to agree to a divorce if he/she cannot understand the documents. In fact, whatever legal documents your Mom had signed giving everything to a Niece, may not hold up in a Court of law, as your Mom probably didn't understand what she was signing.
As for your Dad finding an Elder Law Attorney, if he is able to understand a legal document, scroll to the bottom of this page.... click on "Elder Law Attorneys" and following the request. That is how I found an Elder Law Attorney for myself :)
At 56 you say you are losing your medical fight. What fight is that?
Why are you dependent on them, financially; can you tell us a bit more about that?
To be honest you are dealing with a marriage here in which your father, when able, did not leave. You have a mom and a niece working together to care for Dad and for you?
I think you need the intervention of APS.
If you call them and they are unable to help, then I feel that you must save yourself.
And if you are financially dependent on them I don't quite know how you do that. Our cities are full of tents of those who have no choice but to be in them given a set of circumstances that built for them over time.
I wish I had something to advise you.
I just do not.