I’ve been caring for my Alzheimer's grandma for 6 years now. Over this last year she had gotten WORSE. I’m steadily cleaning up poop. She can’t do anything anymore but won’t accept she can’t. She won’t listen when I try to help her. She wakes every night at 12:30 and I have to stay up and care for her and I also have a disabled toddler that needs me. None of our family will help. Not even for a day. Here are my issues: she won’t sleep and the doctor gives her trazadone. I’m wondering if I should ask the doctor to change it. Wandering had been a huge issue. I have signs all over my home to help her but she won’t stop and even try to read them. Lately she has been talking to people everyday. She act as if she’s a rebellious teenager and I’m the mean mom. This is the hardest part. I put her in diapers but they are the nice pantie diapers but last week she found some undies and wore them. Pooped in them and just threw them in the wash. So here I am cleaning poop. Then she smears poop from her bathroom to her room. I wash her clothes and pretty well do it all but sometimes I feel she doesn’t appreciate it at all. I’m so tired. I need sleep but I am scared to place her in nursing home. Last time she didn’t do well and ran but I’m tired and my son needs me so much. There is a lot more going on and I promised her I wouldn’t place her in a care facility but I’m starting to feel like maybe I’m not the best things for her. If I mention nursing home she goes into tears. Would they be able to keep her without my approval? I am POA. I need to know if I made this choice just for a week to maybe 2 weeks of the month. I would be able to take her out if the place wasn’t good for her. Also any ideas on how to get her to sleep and help with the poop issues? Please no negativity. Thank you all for your help!