My dad has dementia and my mom is his caretaker. She is constantly telling us kids " it's not that bad yet". We know she is trying to protect his dignity. He recognizes us, but doesn't necessarily remember our names. They live at home;Mom is 80 and dad is 85. He functions around the house pretty well, but really can't be left alone for more than a couple hours. We think Mom is in denial about Dad's condition, and still tries to interact with him the same way she has done for the past 50 years. We are worried for her health as well. If she were to fall, for example, we are pretty sure Dad would not be able to call 911.
Any advice on how to deal with our mom to allow us to get Catholic Charities or other agencies involved. She does not want to let anyone into their home for any evaluations. One of us kids checks in weekly, and someone talks daily, but they need more.