i don't entirely trust her, she's manipulative and mean to me. Over and over i say i will walk away completely but i can't do that i want to help take care of my father at least spend time with him even though he doesn't know who i am. But it is extremely difficult, if i ask questions about her care or just day to day issures it is interpreted as a criticism and emotions instantly escalate. If i try and walk away, i get the martyr routine. I remind myself that is not about us its about my father but it is not easy. I also am not sure he's being taken care of properly. I also am not clear on their money situation because i am lied to about it. Any advise?