So, in the Spirit of giving, my normally absentee sister has agreed to pick up Dad and take him to his favorite clothing store in our hometown to buy a suit (she's not going to pay for it -- yet I digress)
I'm just CONCERNED for many reasons:
First, the trip just seems ODD. I'm not sure of the motive here, and I want to make sure that he's protected.
His dementia has made him quite careless with money, and I don't want him traveling 1.5 hours away with his debit or credit card that could be lost or misused. Cash is totally out of the question. My "fix" for this is just to get him a prepaid card at about $200 and convince him that he only needs ONE suit.
In actuality, he doesn't even NEED that. Daddy rarely goes anywhere that requires him to dress up, and he struggles with suit elements like buttons, zippers, cuff links, neckties, etc. My guess is that he is going to get frustrated simply trying on the suit.
In addition, I spent $300 on some dressy clothes for him last summer but HE DOESN'T REMEMBER the trip! He's NEVER worn the clothes, and when I show him the brand new outfits with the tags still on them, he says he doesn't like them. HE PICKED THEM OUT PERSONALLY!!!!
He's somehow got it in his head that someone stole his old dress clothes, but once again he doesn't remember when we personally went through his wardrobe when we moved him from the house and he told us which items he wanted to donate to charity. Most of the clothes were terribly out of date and too big (I wish I would have kept some of them now).
So... I'm trying not to be so controlling (even though this suit will be a COMPLETE waste of money that we could use on other expenses) and it looks like I'm just going to have to grit and bear this POINTLESS purchase.
Any suggestions here?
BTW... I was going to try to get him a suit from Goodwill and give it as a gift, but he feels like he MUST go to this store and purchase a brand new (unneeded) suit from there....