I work Full-time and he is getting to the point where he always needs someone around to help him. He can still bath himself and get dressed for the most part. I help his find his clothes, and help him put on socks/shoes. But, for the most part I do everything else. Get him drinks, food, whatever else he needs. Set up his meds, and make sure he takes them. Run him to the Doctor or to/from Dialysis.
It is getting to be too much for me alone. I need some help. I just don't know where to start.
If there are no assets you are down to checking with your doc, you supplemental insurance, and social workers in your hospital system. As hubby is attending dialysis center three days a week likely this is time for checking there to begin with.
Two major systems are failing here. Heart and kidneys. Add the COPD and there are three systems. At some point there may be more care needed than you cab do as one person. That would means placement.
I am so sorry. You must feel so overwhelmed. 24/7 care of this type isn't sustainable for one person.
You may want to start with the nonprofit Family Caregiver Alliance which has lots of resources from support groups to training to a questionnaire that reveals what programs are best suited to your specifics. caregiver.org
Take care of yourself and hubby