Hello my father who is 80 and has a live in girlfriend 66.She has had multiple relationships behind his back.For the first time my kids& I were not invited Thanksgiving& Christmas.This woman verbally abuses me when my father isn’t around.Recently she blocked me on his phone.We had lunch plans so I thought I better check on him.He was there got in my car asking why I never called.I told him hand yr phone to my son yes indeed she blocked my number.He will blame himself he must of did it.Mind you he doesn’t know what blocking is.Theres many stories here.We had to go to a birthday party the other day and we had to go together because that is what he wanted.All went well till we got back he went inside she asked to hug me goodbye and in my ear she says your a very very mean person and the worst daughter ever.I got in my car and cried all the way home.He called a day later I told him what happened calmly.He replied I don’t care about that she never said nothing to me.He than ignores as he usually does and said let me kno when we can go to the market.I said dad this isn’t ok,he says ignore it.Im done my heart aches and mentally I cannot take anymore.Im scared for his life with this lady.Thanx for reading
If you don't have proof, start gathering it. You can take pictures with your cell phone of his checkbook, his bank statements, things around the house that show her control or abuse of him. She is intimidating you! You don't have to take it! Don't let her whisper to you. Anything she has to say can be said in front of everyone, so tell her that. Refuse to be included in plans even though your father wants you all to seem like one happy family. He is not king of the world, he's allowing her to hurt you, and you don't have to accept that.
If it means you only see him when he's without Cuddle Fluff, so be it. Ditto if it means you don't see him at all. I don't understand why you'd want to perpetuate a relationship that undermines YOU. Even rats quit running when they keep hitting the wall! You could too.
Let us know how it goes with the lawyer, and good luck.
These types are looking out for themselves, since people who have nothing to hide....HIDE NOTHING. No sincere GF would keep Dad from his family for holidays.