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She is kept permanently in home. I have been the sole caregiver of my mom for years with no help. She had to go to the hospital and the doctor said she would have to go to rehab, because I would not be able to care for her like she was. I had to use one credit card to get clothing and bed clothes for her stay in rehab. Her air went out. I couldn't afford to have it replaced. I had to use another......Home Depot....to purchase 2 small window units and paint to paint her bedroom while she was out of it. All the while I thought she would be coming home after rehab. She was unable to complete rehab or come home. The doctors said there was no way I could take care of her alone. She has sundowners and dementia. I averaged about 2 hours of sleep a night. I was exausted. They kept her permanently in the nursing home and now they have all her income. Will her credit card companies hold me legally responsible for the purchases made while she was in rehab, even though they were for her. I'm afraid they may try to make me pay the whole bill which she kept run up for things she had to have even though she was ill. I would take her in her wheelchair to shop for things through the years. She had no restraint on her spending. I was so exausted I just did what she wanted. Will they make me pay these things?

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Maggie Marshall , You people didn't have any problems until my brother got angry with me for standing up for myself. And no I can't afford a LAWYER because we are both on a fixed income. We are not a wealthy family. Just trying to take care of mother best way I can with the small amt of money she gets. She lives in her own home and so do I. No handouts for either
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@gardenartist. I'm not a co-signer or joint account holder. The cards are in her name. She just told me to use them to get the things she needed. Even though she has dementia she is able to talk intelligently when she is on the medication regularly. At home she was non-compliant and wouldn't take it. My name is not on any of the accounts, but I had to sign her name at point of purchase.
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Silver, this is an excellent article addressing the liability, if any, of people whose names are added to someone else's credit card account. You'll have to determine into which of these categories you fall to assess whether or not you may have liability:

creditcards./credit-card-news/cosign-guarantor-joint-account-differences-1267.php

Are you a co-signer, an authorized signatory, guarantor or joint applicant? Note also that Bank of America takes a different stand on liability for authorized users.

If your card is from BOA, be prepared to be held accountable as this bank is very aggressive and can be hostile even to its customers. Been through it with them; I would never deal with them again. I'd sooner wrestle with an alligator.
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Talk to an elder law attorney. and please don't say you can't afford one. I'd like to know how families get so messed up that siblings start dueling over a power of attorney. If you people can't function without being at war with each other, the court will likely step in and take mom off everyone's hands and into guardianship with the state.
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I have taken care of my mom for 8 1/2 years paying all bills n maintaining the house, now mybrother has gotten her to give hi. Joint POA ,can I get a POA wuth my older adult sister n I s haring joint ?
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No, you will not be held responsible for these purchases.
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