In the past I have dealt with much nastiness from my brother and sister in law regarding my parents - to the point of them calling law enforcement. I thought that we had mended the fences a bit, but my mom passed away yesterday in hospice. I was not there when she actually passed but was the last one in the family group to leave and thought I was last one to see her. I found out that my sister in law ( the one who had said some nasty stuff to mom in the past) went back down there without telling me or my dad. I was too tired to drive back but both of us would have went if someone else had driving. I am very angry that she was with my mom when she passed and my dad and I were not. It's like one upmanship anyway - like I will outdo you in things you do for parents. Interesting, if she did not mind us knowing she was there - she let the nurse call to tell me instead of her calling. I am so angry. She is not HER mom - she's my mother.
Has anyone had anything like this happen. I honestly do not trust anyone in my family anymore. This is just added to the intense pain that I feel.