Has this site changed it's venue?

A lot of the questions have nothing to do with caregiving. What’s for dinner?? 3 good things today? But it takes our mind off the caregiving and it is meant to help lift our spirits and put us in a good mood. It works for me. A lot of the caregiving questions aren’t uplifting. What movie have you seen lately? Is a great question for people to get out of the house and enjoy a movie instead of being a caregiver 24/7. We need reminders to take care of ourselves. What better place to be reminded of that then here?

I agree with Barb. Something has changed, there seem to be more people on the site recently that are lost and don't read what this site is.

I think we've always had posts that are off topic. One difference I've noticed that some people are responding to them rather than ignoring them or telling the OP look elsewhere.
And we seem to be getting a lot more people who are dealing with family dysfunction rather than seeking advice about practical care.

Hey, Abby; I think we're just drawing a wider audience. Probably something to do with internet algorithms.

How is it going with mom and dad?

This is just my opinion, but people on here treat this site more like FB, and feel free to criticize, express hate, and attack other caregivers personally.

I have observed a group of posters who travel the site as a group, mean girls showing up to attempt to take down others, ruin their reputations, post behind people's backs what is untrue and negative opinions. They are bullies, imo.

This past week, I thought, with just a little more effort, one negative poster will be allowed to destroy the entire website single handedly. And this group has misinterpreted and ill-defined what the aging care website is intended for.

But I still believe that the Admins and moderators will edit, delete, and close negative threads for further comment to preserve the integrity of the Aging Care reputation.

We are not here to express hate for our aged parents, or hate towards other caregivers. People who design entire threads to express hate, and are joined in by the group I am referring to, just have not been brought up correctly, or at all.

I am not referring to those loyal caregivers who have experienced burnout and needed our help to recover burnout.

And I do not hate others who disagree with me.

Agreed the questions, answers, and discussions have changed. There seems to be a lot more off topic discussion.

Elaine,

Thanks for the complement. I appreciate it but I am quite sure that in trying to offer support to someone that I haven’t always given the correct answer to those posting for answers to their questions.

None of us are going to have the magic answer to every question, even if it’s well meaning advice.

I think most people are sincerely trying to help and do care, otherwise they wouldn’t want to be involved in a site like this.

If we run into disputes sometimes it’s best not to feed them ammunition to fire back at us. I went through enough of that in my family with my mom and brothers. I reached my quota of dealing with foolishness. Surrendering from the chaos is liberating! It was completely exhausting and futile to continue a relationship with my brothers.

Should we talk about god on hear? Not everyone believes in god. Doesn’t that cause arguments? I thought politics and religion were off limits on here? If they aren’t off limits, they should be.

See what you started, Abby?!?

I'm relatively new on this message board, but I think the "controversial" stuff should be left in the Discussions. Too much bickering on the Questions side, which might cause threads to be completely abandoned by the OP.

Why and HOW do I miss all the fun. I am sorry to have missed that. I find this site overall full of good information. I think the questions get repetitive when you are here a while. How often can you go through the whole UTI thing? But overall I love it.