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My mom accuses everyone of stealing. She said she had 600 in her room. She didn't. Her SS check is direct deposit. She doesnt drive anymore. And no one drives her anywhere but me. She accused my son of stealing He came by to visit and she sees him and said he stole her money. Now she claims when she see him again she is calling police on him. He is a student. When I argued with her about it she called me a slut!!.. I have been upset since that day which was the day b4 valentines day. She has always been mean to me. My two brother talk mess about me living here with my boyfriend. We paid all the bills except some of her credit cards. Including a payment plan on back taxes. My brothers dont help with nothing. They rarely come to visit and wont take her to get a hamburger. They want to borrow on the house and me pay it back. Saying they will fix up the house and put some in her account. And my older brother wants 20 thousand. This is all crazy to me. I recently got power of attorney with my moms sister.. My brothers dont know this. All they do is complain . about the house.which is old and needs some work but not over 5,000 worth My boyfriend is fixing things by himself he is a contractor he built a new fence around it. Does any plumbing we have painted inside. He doesnt mind painting outside but why can't my two brothers help him. One is a contractor the other a firefighter. My boyfriend has descoid lupus he is doing the best he can. He did work for my brother who never paid him. And borrows his expensive tools.My brothers are so jealous of him being here..They refuse to do anything. My mother is a handful she lies on people she is mean and nasty. She urinenates in jars. Is a hoarder of trash and junk. In her room is a constant mess no matter how much I clean it up She cannot do anything by herself. Not even take her meds. AND cannot hear or wear a hearing aid.. will hardly bathe. And is addicted to loramzepam. And cannot remember nothing.. But acts mean. Never apologizing. Never grateful.

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Have you discussed your mother's condition with her doctor? Is that who diagnosed her with dementia? Who is responsible for her attending to her healthcare and finances?

I'd discuss your mother's condition with her doctor, if possible. I'd share how caring for her has become challenging. People who have dementia suffer with brain damage. It's not as if she is being rude, mean or difficult on purpose. They often may have delusions. So, the things she is saying are real to her.

The person loses the ability to act normally, even to handle their hygiene and toileting needs. They require a lot of patience, attention and around the clock care.

I'd explore how you can find help for your mother. Depending on the level of care they need, they may need to go and live in an Assisted Living facility, Memory Care or Nursing Home. I'd figure out if mom needs that and how to get her placed. It sounds like you have a lot of issues going on in the house and with your family that might require placement out of the home. Who's handling her finances?
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Bax, I found this article here on the website that might help.

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/bad-behavior-by-elderly-parents-138673.htm
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Move out.
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The one thing you can count on with dementia is that it is ever-changing. The behavior that you hate today will morph into something different and it will be different than anyone else's journey. It will not likely get any better. Her brain is broken. Some symptoms can be managed with medication, but will not be cured. If you think you are not cut out for the job of caregiver- it would be best to place her in an appropriate facility. Just as everyone cannot play football or weave rugs, everyone can't be a hands-on caregiver. No shame in admitting it. You can be the loving daughter who visits, who handles the dr appointments, who pays the bills. You can be rested and come and go at your convenience. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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