My mother's partner, who has dementia, is upset that I am leaving my job to care for my mother and him. Mother has a host of physical problems, the main one being COPD, causing her to be on oxygen full-time, but she also has severe osteoporosis and heart issues. She is wheelchair bound at this point, and her doctor called in hospice yesterday.
Her partner has been upset ever since we told him I was leaving my job to care for them. He is lucid about 60% of the time, but when he isn''t he can be a danger both to himself and to her (not that he's abusive, but things get unplugged or hidden). He, however, feels there is nothing wrong-he totally forgets that he forgets- and that he doesn't need help with anything.
Is there a kind way to tell him that he does need help, both physically and mentally? (Incidentally, I could, of course, use the help from hospice)