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My sister was appointed guardian over my mother after a catastrophic stroke, my brother and his family have moved in with mom and sis to help take care of mom. My sister is paying my brother to watch mom during the day while she works. My brother works nights. The rest of the siblings as well as the other grandchildren are not allowed contact with mom/grandma. Is this legal? My sister will not allow assistance from the nursing facilities in the area to check on mom. Mom qualifies for Medicaid assistance but sister will not do the paperwork. She insists that she and my brother can handle things on their own without outside interference. Is there anything that the rest of the family can do?

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Wow! Can you say Narcissistic Personality Disorder?? Been doing a lot of research on that one lately (explains a lot about Mom).

Who gave your sis guardianship? A judge I assume. He should be able to make the call of who gets to visit.

Who pays sis? And how much? Is bro getting paid by sis AND living off of Mom? Something sounds really fishy here and your mom may be getting the "shaft" and you don't even know it. Someone needs to get in there and see how Mom is doing!
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Is it legal? Probably. Guardianship confers much greater control than, for example, DPOA.

Is it in Mother's best interests? That is pretty hard to imagine.

Can you do anything about it? I suggest that you consult an elder law attorney.

How did this Sister get guardianship? Did the rest of the family offer their opinions during the court hearing? Was everyone content with that arrangement at the time, and only have concerns now that Sister is cutting everyone off?

Very sad situation. My heart goes out to you. But if Sister is the legal gaurdian I think you'll need legal advice regarding visitation rights.
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My two cents: isolation is elder abuse which would be what you are describing. If you pursue this, which I believe you should, the guardian would have to come up with some very good reasons why the family is not welcome to see your loved one.
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My older brother got to spend twenty minutes with mom under strict supervision. My daughter still has not been allowed to speak to or visit with her grandmother. I am not allowed to speak with or see my mother. I was the one who has taken her to all of her dr.s appointments for the last 25 years. All of a sudden I'm not allowed to do even that! The only working shower in the house is located in my moms room. There are five people taking showers in the morning. Mom has no privacy in her own home. It is a very sad situation. I have written a letter to the court asking for assistance.
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The sad part of both our situations is that tha adults don't realize the damage that is being done to the grandchildren. My mother babysat my daughter from the time she was 6 weeks old until after she started first grade. She has always been able to pick up the phone and call her grandmother any time she wished. We have always celebrated the holidays with her. Since her stroke all of that has been changed. Phone calls go unreturned, cards are returned unopened and celebrating the holidays is totally out of the question. My daughter is devastated
At the the treatment she has received from her aunt. There has been no contact between mt daughter and her grandmother for the last four months because my sister will not allow it. This is time that has been stolen from a child that can never be returned to her. I am sad to say that I agreed to appoint my sister guardian. Now I see that I made a grievous mistake in doing so.
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Update on this situation. In April my sister tried to have a restraining order placed on me for "harassment of her". (I haven't seen/ spoken to her in over a year). It was thrown out of court do to lack of evidence. I was the one that partitioned the court on her behalf to be appointed guardian for my mom. I was the one who paid the lawyer to do the paperwork. I was the one that took my older disabled brother in when she threw him out of the only home he has ever known. This guardianship has gone to her head. There are five of us who are not allowed to see or even speak to my mom. There are 10 grandchildren who have been totally cut off from their grandmother. This whole situation is not right but I don't know where else to turn.
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My mother is 95 yrs old she has 15 children.My sister does not allow me & my brothers&sisters to visit with her.Is there anything we can do.Mom Is the one suffering by not letting her see her children.We live in Conn.is there anything we can do now.
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I am not a lawyer but common sense tells me that "yes" you have a right to see your own mother. Children, depending on their ages and if they comprehend the seriousness of the present situation should also be aloud to visit their grandmother. The part of your story I feel uncomfortable with is why are they keeping your mother isolated? Is your sister or brother a doctor? Have either of them subscribed the need for isolation? Can you contact your mothers doctor or the hospital that attended her after her stroke to find out more information that about you mothers condition?

If I were you I would see a lawyer to see if your allowed access to your mother. Even local health department could be of some assistance. All in all the scenario you describe above does not sound right to me.
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what is the current status of this situation?
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I have a similar sad situation. My prayers to you. My mother went to visit my sister in colorado, I live in florida and my mom lived next door for 25 years and lived with me after my dad died for 2 years. I bought a round trip ticket for her to visit. within two days my sister and brother together closed her bank accounts, removed her s.s. and pension, cut off her cell phone andchanged her address. They then callede and told me to send 44,000.00 dollars if I wanted to speak to my mom again. I am sad every day. I have not spoken to my mom in 10 months, they told her I threw her out of the house and did not want her back. She told my son that. They let him talk to her only when they call him, if he calls they do not answer. So when they call back my mother talks to him and my sister is on the phone asking him for money from me if I want to talk to her. I have called adult protective services but I believe she is scared to say anything as she thinks she has been thrown out of my house and will have nowhere to go. I have contacted an attorney in Colorado but he wants a ten thousand retainer and he cannot guarantee. I prayer for all who are going thru this. How disgusting greed is. Any one with any ideas what else could be done please advise. Thank you all
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