Group home; positives and negatives?

If he is happy where he is and he has the resources to pay for it he should bite the bullet and stay there. He will not be comfortable in a new place. Change in residence is very hard on the elderly. They are set in their ways, familiar with current place, love the staff, etc. I would only make the move if there was no choice.

I don't have any personal experience with group homes but I imagine like any small closed environment it is highly dependent on the dynamics of the people living and working there, the pool is much too small to absorb even one toxic personality. He sounds very high functioning, does he really need that level of support?

The hardest thing for us was that my dad was high functioning and had a really difficult time with the really incapacitated residents, death was sitting to close for his comfort.

They don't have any activities, no transportation and not a lot of room to move around and exercise indoors.

Personalities were right there, so if there was any tiff between residents, everyone got involved, because they are living like a large family and most of the seniors I have met in these situations regress to spoiled, selfish little kid personality traits, so you can imagine 5 to 10 full grown 4 year olds with one or 2 people young enough to be their grandchildren in charge. It can be very interesting, could he deal with that environment?

On the plus side, you tend to know everyone else, you have the same caregivers for a majority of the time and it is a home setting vs. a institutional environment. They are more likely to accept pets and you are usually situated in a neighborhood, so going for walks is not near major thoroughfares.

I would encourage him to stay where he is if he has the money and has been contented. He obviously has more going on then a need for help to take meds on time, I would really look at what his needs are and what the future looks like. Dementia only gets more care intensive and change more difficult.

Be sure and check out any home facility for compliance with the rules and regulations, my dads got shut down for repeated violations and poor care of those that could not advocate for themselves.

Do group homes accept Medicaid? This may be a deciding factor.

You say that he can do everything, just wants to be waited on. Let him figure it out for himself.

I don't think that you should be worrying about what he wants, tell him that he can let you know where he is going and when and you will help him move.

I don't jump through hoops for any able person.

The only group home I heard about in our area is run by former nurses.
I don’t think anyone can choose for him. This decision is highly personal to make.

So is money the only reason he is considering leaving or are there other reasons too?

for him it's all about the money.
his out of pocket expenses for living there is around $500/month.
he constantly complains that he shouldn't have to pay anything to live there!
i have no idea how he got the John Hancock insurance to pay out.
he's very social, so i personally think a group home would be worse for him.
have a couple of leads for independent care facilities that are about $2500/month cheaper.
the only reason he's in AL is his insurance would not pay for independent care.

Does he drive? What about his doctor appointments? You may want to find out if potential places has a shuttle bus to his appointments.

Mark, group homes do not typically provide transportation. This is something that you should have him be sure and check out before he makes a decision based on money.

Most group homes provide the kit and kaboodle here in WI (room, board, medication dispensation {meds are paid for by the clients health insurance or prescription plan, like medicaid}, transportation, cleaning and cooking services, heavy supervision). But on the con side, They usually use almost all of your Social security check for room and board here. I have met those who worked and/or lived in GH's--Many of the clients here have to work part time jobs at goodwill or workshop type of places to have a little spending money in their pockets. (Most of the time they make piece rate pay, which isn't much for them to live on, like extras for clothes and occasional snacks)