Living with 96-year-old who seems to others, including, his doctor (who just told him he can keep driving so he drives all over the place every morning running errands even unnecessarily), my sister and nephew that he is still 99% himself. Tried committing everything to written lists, calendars with short daily reminders and typewritten, bulleted updates regarding household projects and matters of import. At 1st, he started filing them but could not remember where they were or find them. I started holding on to duplicate and leaving brief simple notes Throughout the day as he does to me. Partly we do this because hes pretty deaf. Now that we are in the midst of some serious issues, we've had face-to-face discussions, because dad has his wits about him, And then I would document everything. Despite all this, Dad continues to bring up the same subject verbally or via notes over and over and over again. Part of it is his OCD micromanagement, with little time Or bandwidth left. he gets very upset and screams and points at me if I point out the document or try to help him remember the discussion, such as telling him how I'd said I would never want to live where there's winter again (when he offers advice for me to move in with my son, something that would never happen.) He's currently fixated on fixing a door handle that is right outside my door which is working but goes down instead of up. My biggest issue is knowing that if we (likely) have to part company in a few months or at the end of the year due to dwindling savings, I have no documents signed by him nor notarized that confirm his repeated promises he made to me about my relocation being paid for out of the proceeds of his home sale where we live. I contribute virtually all my meager social security income towards our monthly household expenses plus manage his endless, Time Consuming requests, allthat he cannot wait to be done and must be done right now. He is starting to do things he should not be doing that are physically arduous or risky like eating directly out of containers over and never cleaning or allowing to be cleaned his Refrigerated pitcher or nightly thermos, which get very scummy . He'll agree to act a certain way or not do something and then the next day totally reverse that. I'm trying to get his physical therapist and nurse to take over those issues. Any suggestions on how I can persuade him to put the parting agreement in writing? He's holding this over my head deliberately as a control freak just in case he decides that he gets mad at me and then he can just tell me I'm SOL and on the streets. When I brought the subject up, He even said he hesitates to do that in case he gets mad at me. Blackmail. HELP!