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Grandfather is having more. He was hospitalized with pneumonia also treated for UTI. Feeling a little better but wants to get ready for work he retired 30 years ago, thinks he's waiting for a jury at one point thought he was in jail and said he going to attempt a jail break. He also thinks im some lady that works at the hospital. So far relatively harmless but how should I respond. I tried reasoning with him but he gets agitated. Is this harmful if I let him think these things or change the subject?

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Today my Dad [94] said it is time for him to quit work.... so I agreed with him, I said it was time for him to relax. For months now Dad would tell me he went to a meeting but couldn't find anyone to drive him home, then finally someone directed him to his "hotel" room [he lives in Memory Care, and had retired from work 30 years ago].

I know at times I wanted to correct Dad's thinking then I had to keep reminding myself he has dementia, so correcting him wouldn't be successful. It would just irritate both of us.

If my Dad's thinking gets totally off into the weeds, I know I can bring him back to "today" by asking him about the weather. He seems to be able to keep up with anything weather related.
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All you can do is go with the flow. Just be thankful he is not running down the street in his birthday suit weilding an axe looking for the mailman because no one sent him a Valentine's card for Christmas.
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As long as the delusions are harmless, play along. Correcting him will only cause an argument. Yes, change the subject, ask him about happier days when he was young. Play his favorite music if you can.
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Thank you. I thought it was harmless going along with it. Just needed reassurance.
Weather us usually a safe topic for us too. He also likes to watch the new and ill ask him about something we just saw. . Im just happy hes talking to me.We went thru about 2 weeks of one word answers. One other question he sometimes says the opposite of what i think he means. For example he will tell me hes putting on his shirt when hes clearly taking it off, or he wants to put something on the table when hes taking a kleenex off the table. Am i reading too much into it? Its becoming difficult to know what he wants since hes losing the ability to communicate with me. Any other suggestions?
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Maybe you can get him to shower himself before he dresses for work?
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