My grandmother passed away in 2015. And then in 2016, a year later my grandad moved into our house. He is my mum's dad.
I have been overseas until 6 months ago, and now coming back I am not used to living like this. Neither is my mum or my dad.
We have always been very different from our grandparents as a family, had very different beliefs hobbies and everything else.
So now my grandad has occupied the space which is the living room and the kitchen, he watches tv all day. Never cleans up after himself, never goes anywhere. And the bathroom is a mess, I have to disinfect it every single day, because he refuses to sit down on the toilet so there is pee everywhere. And at night he pees in the urine bottle, which he doesnt clean properly and puts it in a drawer in his room. The whole room smells.
I am freaking out and I am thinking of moving out.
My dad is freaking out, and wants to move out because it is impossible to live like this, and he will move out if this is not solved by the end of January.
My mum is freaking out as well, but feels guilty because he is her dad.
We talked about moving him into a retirement home, but he said he would rather kill himself than move to a retirement home.
We wanted to hire an assistant for him but he refuses having anyone else but family to help him.
WHAT DO WE DO?