I'm still caring for my elderly mother with vascular dementia. She is doing well, but as you know with this disease she has her days that are really rough. Anyway, I cannot leave her alone for any length of time because she gets rattled. I need to take my daughter to Mayo Clinic, we are waiting for the appointment date. It's very possible she will need surgery, but we're not crossing that bridge quite yet. Mom would do better mentally if she came with me, but I don't think it would be the best for her physically. She would have to stay in the accommodations with my husband the whole time. I feel I shouldn't take my mother to Minnesota for numerous reasons... it is too cold and there may be snow everywhere, she cannot walk long distances so she would be in a wheelchair, she's on oxygen 24/7, the trip would be too hard on her, etc. My dilemma is, I do not have enough family to help me, and I have a very small friend base that would be able to help. Whatever we do they will more than likely have to come into my home and stay. I don't know any place or anyone that she could go stay with except my daughter and she has three young children so I know that would make Mom very nervous if she had to stay there for a week. Mom gets scared when I'm not around. I don't know what else I could do, but I know that there is an answer and a solution. I could use some ideas from everyone. Thank you.