A birthday is coming up and I am thinking about gift ideas for my Alzheimer's parent.
Its kind of tricky to think of what will be suitable. They are stage 6 Alzheimer's. I was thinking of getting a sensory dog but I am not sure whether they are far enough gone for that yet and whether that will be upsetting and humiliating for them. Any other gift ideas?
Gosh it is getting quite stressful and depressing going to visit. I am not sure what to do there alot of the time. I want to get better at this. I am not sure how to make the visits more fun and enjoyable for both of us.
We never had a good relationship prior to the Alzheimer's in any event, so that on its own makes it difficult enough,
I feel there is a certain amount of guilt placed on these decisions. Not always. I always bought my mother birthday gifts. I never missed acknowledging her birthday ever. It brought me pleasure to remember her special day.
Actually, the best gift that you can give her is just being with her. You don’t have entertain her either. It hurts watching parents decline. Sometimes I think we are trying to please ourselves because we want them to suffer a little less but we don’t have the power to take their suffering away. Surely would be nice if we could.
My father enjoyed some of the new unique birthday cards that play a recording when opened. Some played movie clips and some allow you to record a message. He really like the one where I recorded the whole family singing happy birthday. The next year I recorded all the great-grandchildren saying "happy birthday grandpa" one after the other.