My mother-in-law fell in her apartment several times due to a balance problem that wasn't going away. The hospital strongly urged a change in her care. We brought her home to our condo. Reality set in but we hung in almost 3 years. We sold our condo and she moved in an assisted living.
She fell and broke her hipwithin the year. She had surgery and we had no other choice but a nursing home.
My wife and her siblings collectively decided same. My wife was crushed at breaking the promise which obviously did not include all the veriables not considered at the time it was made.
She lives a tortured life but has been her Moms guardian angel helping to create a standard for her mom at the home second to none. I am so proud of her.All parents should have a daughter like my wife. But she continues to suffer for having failed her mother. She needs help. I've suggested therapy but she is set on punishing herself. We need help.
Fred and Sandy