My mom & dad divorced many years ago, they are both 87 and there are 5 children 2 out of state. My dad got to the point healthwise where he couldn't take care of himself and was failing rapidly, he called and said he can't do it anymore by himself we picked him up he lived with my husband and I for 4 months when we put him in an assisted living home. The doctors gave him 6 months and he lived 3 1/2 years. It was very difficult dealing with him daily but, we did my husband is retired and my dad became his responsibility as far as doctors, tests, medication delivery everything. My husband and I worked diligently on everything for him and my dad knew this. We had joint checking and savings accounts for years and on each investment he had I was his beneficiary. Last year we cashed everything in because his cost of living became more costly and per the suggestion of his tax man, being my dad was in a cheaper tax bracket it would be better. I tried keeping all of my siblings updated with everything via email and letters however; they would criticize everything I said or did so we would argue. The one that received the letters never read them. It's been a nightmare I just couldn't believe my family could be like this. We were even accused of stealing material things from my dad. No help, no support, nothing. Now my dad has passed away. I've been told everything is mine and I'm entitled to it all however; this is not me. I want to share his monies, not equally however. How do I do this and my siblings not argue with me about amounts and not splitting equally. I do not feel they are entitled! There is no will, I was his POA and handled everything my dads feeling was I would handle everything the way I felt best. And now I don't know what or how to do it as I don't even want them to know the monies left because it never mattered when he was alive. Not one question pertaining to how much he started with, how much I paid out monthly, how much this increased, that increased nothing. This is so difficult as I don't want to appear greedy however; they most certainly don't deserve what my husband and I do, missing work and spending days, days and more days handling everything that needed to be taken care of from moving him from up north to a new facility, living with us, social security, Medicare, insurance, medication, dealing with the doctors, nurses, aides everything! Also, being with him Birthdays and all Holidays when no one else would appear.