The smell in the house is getting unbearable. Can anyone give me some advice? He is my son and I am 85 years old and unable to change his mind about this problem. It has been a year now. All he does is sit and watch movies. He is unable to walk without a walker and refuses to go to a doctor. He won't go further than the small porch that he sometimes, with coaxing, will sit there on a nice day. He will talk to me when I start a conversation, but the moment I stop, he goes right back to watching the movie. I've been told by family members to have him removed to some other place, but I think it will traumatize him. I am so sad about this situation, but I can't make him leave against his will. He eats well and I always try to give him nourishing meals, which he enjoys.
Sincerely.
Is a doctor treating his depression now? Have you met with/talked to this doctor? Does he or she know of the current situation?
Working with his doctor and setting some rules MIGHT help you get your son off dead center in front of the tv.
But Pam S is right. Ultimately you will not be there to take care of him, to see that he eats well, to set rules for him. Then what? It would be best for both of you if you begin the process of finding an alternative living arrangement for him now. He may be more willing comply with house rules elsewhere, and the transition would perhaps go more smoothly if you are available to visit him and talk on the phone.