My 89 year old mother has Dementia and insists she can live alone. She wants to die in her own home and is refusing any care other than from my husband and I. My health is not good, my husband and I are burning out. My husband is taking care of her now because I can't after 2 years of doing so. Any suggestions on how to gently let her know she needs to be in a safe environment, that our lives are on hold because we can't leave her completely alone.