Dad (92) was in hospital-recovering now Mom has dementia, thinks he's fine. She keeps repeating that she wants him to go out for lunch and dinner all the time (they used to and that's what landed him in the hospital with congestive heart failure) So that's off the list and if he does go out, it's going to be limited. I can't get through to her that he needs an aide in the apt. (which he has) and why, and that he can't do what he used to now. She's starting to get testy and insistent about it, and getting more and more fed up with the aid who is there to help him. All because she doesn't understand why. Any thoughts/ideas of what might work to get her to "get it"? I tell her I can't be there 24/7 because I work etc. I need some ideas. It's getting frustrating and before this takes a turn for the worse maybe there are some ideas that might work to get through to her and stick. Dad's sharp as a tack but doesn't have the strength to keep telling her. Help!
Any time I deliver their groceries, Mom [who is still very sharp] will call for Dad to help bring in the groceries... nice gesture but by the time Dad puts on his shoes, struggles into his jacket, decides which cap to wear, looks for his glasses so he can find his cane, I have finished bringing in the items :)
It was many years of denial on my Mom's part that Dad has numerous age related declines. Dad's been in and out of the hospital for one thing or another, last time it was fall. I think when couples have been together that long, they don't see age in each other.