thanks, i have conisdered all this , mom is alztimers and demitia, she signed a will 3 three years ago at her dr recommendation, she was with us enough to know what she was doing, now is different, she does not, i do not think my sis is mean, she just is not qualified and is creating a nightmare, she has already taken thousands for personal like like giving to her daughter and now has disposed of two of my mothers properties , she has become power mad and very selfish all is a big secret, she refuses to show the will or documents my mother signed, she is attempting to prevent me from visiting my mom due to the secrets she is keeping, if all was on the up and up why the cover ups. anyway i do not want my mom taken out of the home, she has a housekeeper from hell that my sis hired, she and my sis have taken everything they could carry out of my mothers house, things are not right and my mom is in a fog, when i ask her about things she does not know they happened, my sis , took her bank card so she could not order take out, my mother does not deserve this , she order food because she was hungry. and yes out family is very dysfunctional, but it is very hard to close my eyes to this , when my sis leaves my mom with nothing, she will be a ward of the state and her life will be living in a 4th rate nursing home , that is my concern
If mom signed off to make sissy her DPOA, MPOA and mom was competent & cognitive at the time, your options are limited. - you could go to court to become moms guardian. It is not a DIY and you need an atty experienced in guardianships - you put on your best Nancy Drew and clearly find documentation that mom is being taken advantage of and then you provide that info to the local adult Protective Services. APS will do an investigation. & if warranted mom removed from the home and made a ward of the state till guardianship or change in DPOA done.
If the tales of woe are being told to you by mom and mom has dementia or is a narcissist & manipulative type, they may or may not be accurate. This site is littered with posts by families of parents who loudly complain to other family about the meanness of the DPOA; that dpoa sissy took away moms checkbook (cause mom was writing checks to charities for $ that mom really could not afford); that dpoa Sissy won't take her out (cause mom gets belligerent & is incontinent and refuses to wear Tenas or goes & takes them off at restaurant, Target, etc.); that DPOA sissy forces her to take drugs (cause mom spit out the Exelon and sissy now puts exelon patches on moms back where she can't reach).
Sissy could be the devil but Sissy may just be doing her best with a mom with dementia who will be a martyr to anyone who will listen....
- you could go to court to become moms guardian. It is not a DIY and you need an atty experienced in guardianships
- you put on your best Nancy Drew and clearly find documentation that mom is being taken advantage of and then you provide that info to the local adult Protective Services. APS will do an investigation. & if warranted mom removed from the home and made a ward of the state till guardianship or change in DPOA done.
If the tales of woe are being told to you by mom and mom has dementia or is a narcissist & manipulative type, they may or may not be accurate. This site is littered with posts by families of parents who loudly complain to other family about the meanness of the DPOA; that dpoa sissy took away moms checkbook (cause mom was writing checks to charities for $ that mom really could not afford); that dpoa Sissy won't take her out (cause mom gets belligerent & is incontinent and refuses to wear Tenas or goes & takes them off at restaurant, Target, etc.); that DPOA sissy forces her to take drugs (cause mom spit out the Exelon and sissy now puts exelon patches on moms back where she can't reach).
Sissy could be the devil but Sissy may just be doing her best with a mom with dementia who will be a martyr to anyone who will listen....