My husband and I, our children and grandchildren are the only famiily living in the same area as my mother-in-law. M father-in-law had been dead for fifteen years. The situation has been like this for over forty years. I have helped my in-laws out financially, physically, and emotionally for all this time. My husband and I are nor responsible for going with her to the doctor, running errands, making repairs, getting prescriptions filled, etc. I fill like my husband's youngest sister never has liked me and that my mother-in-law hasn't in the last 25 or so years. Now that a time has come that really does not need to stay by herself anymore, my husband's brother and sisters leave us out of any discussions or plans. If she comes to live with us I feel like we will never get a break and will be having to constantly report to his siblings about every little thing. I feel that if they take her to live with them that they will totally detach and inform the extended family and friends that we are no good and if it wasn't for me she could remain in this area as she would like to do. This would really be hard for my husband, my children and me to accept. The siblings might call us to come get my mother-in-law if they have plans, need a break, etc. Really I don't see her staying away from this area long. Everything about her future care is a secret to us yet she still lives in this area and we still take care of her necessities. I want to do the right thing. I helped take care of my family with no help from my husband. His family would insinuate that too much was expected from me by my sisters. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, they seem to think that we be on call for mother-in-law 24/7. My husband and i are in our early 70's and I feel that 24/7 care for his mother is too much for us physically, financially and emotionally. Any responses will be appreciated.