I help care for my grandmother...she is very difficult to handle..she never tells what she needs..even when I was younger...always difficult to express her needs..no matter how patient u r with her. She goes in the room & expects us to clean. It's all the more difficult now that she needs care...to constantly guess her needs and to make things easier for her..my biggest issue is she refuses to go to the bathroom tho she can walk to it...so we tried making her wear a diaper which she removes...and she relives herself in her room..and expects us to clean it..we tried bedpans..an diaper like I said...this upsets me sometimes and I'm rude to her :( and I hate being tht way...I coming to not like the person I who I'm am around her...she is my grandmother and I love her...I really need help.. But this is really getting to me...I want to do what is right for her and for me !! HELP !!!